BMXSA promotes a safe environment for its riders ...
Not only on the track but also off the track !!!
This message is for all young and old, riders, parents, caregivers, volunteers, officials - hey the whole BMX Community
Unfortunately these days bullying can be more than the typical playground, school or workplace bullying that we all know and detest - now unfortunately it has progressed (not really progress) to follow victims into their digital lives online .
Yes --- Cyber-Bullying
WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE BEING BULLIED
You have a right to feel safe and be safe. If you are being bullied here are some ideas about what you can do.
Talk to someone about it.
Find a trusted friend,teacher or carer who will listen to how you feel, be supportive, and perhaps even help you work out what to do.
· Talk to your friends -they can help you tell a teacher or your parents or just to feel better.
· Talk to your parents -tell them all about what's been happening.
· Talk to your responsible adult - tell them all about what’s been happening.
If you can't talk to someone face-to-face go online at Kids Helpline
http://www.kidshelp.com.au/ or call a Kids Helpline counselor on 1800 55 1800.
Try a few of the strategies that have worked for others.
Only try these strategies if you are not in any immediate danger of being physically hurt and you feel confident you can do them.
· Ignore the bullying - turn your back and walk away.
· Act unimpressed or pretend you don't care what they say or do to you. You could say 'okay, whatever' and walk away.
· Use strong, assertive statements, starting with the word ‘I’; tell the other person ‘I want you to stop that’ in a strong and confident voice.
Practice this with your friends.
· Use ‘fogging’ which means making a joking or funny comment that makes the other person think you don't care about what they say.
· Ask your friends to speak up for you. And remember to do the same for them!
Try to stay positive.
Focus on all the things that you do well, the people who like you and care about you. Write down your thoughts and feelings about
the bullying to help you think clearly about what you can do.
Hang around with your friends and be with people who help you feel good about yourself.
Good friends respect, encourage and support you. They care for your well being
and are fun to be around. You'll make new friends by respecting, encouraging and supporting others.
Try to sort out the problem behind the bullying.
If you feel safe to do so, talk with the other people involved and ask them how you might be able to sort out the problem together.
Stop the gossip to break the cycle you don’t need talk to everyone about it (or post it on social media) just those who can help you as this continues the bullying – it gives the bully power
Bullying is not about you
Our ego takes it personally
Blaming the bully is giving them the power
Here are some links that can provide info and assistance
Information about bullying: Bullying is not simply ‘part of growing up’.
Reallife stories about bullying
or go to http://www.headspace.org.au/is-it-just-me/real-storiesand search by category for ‘bullying’
Play by the Rules
To build the capacity and preparedness, and positively influence the behaviours, of sport and recreation providers to better deal with the issues that impact on safe, fair and inclusive sport and recreation
True stories from young people about their experiences with bullying, as well as how Kids Helpline has helped them.
General information about dealing with bullying
Beyondblue's youth program aims to empower young people aged 12–25, theirfriends and those who care for them to respond to anxiety and depression.